How to get more of what you resist?

How to get more of what you resist?

Many of us have been in a place where we are in a constant resistance to what we feel inside ourselves, our internal state where we're holding off, and it's almost like constant pushing or pulling back.

Our greatest fear should not be of failure… but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter. - Francis Chan

Being too hard and resistant to ourselves makes us feel angry, miserable, frustrated and even overly restricted. It makes us blame ourselves for things we didn't do, we even blame ourselves for things we did and how we did them, almost like we have no control over ourselves and our emotions towards ourselves.

Jaz Broughton and I talked about this in this one! 💛

Whether it's a trauma response, whether it's the discomfort that you're feeling, the resistance where you're resisting against your own nature, it's important to figure that out, and see if you can get yourself to a space where there's just less shame and it doesn't feel as heavy. We need to be light. You cannot be limitless when you're just like "I'm going to apologize for everything I am and everything I do and everything I didn't do." You don't want that version of you showing up in the world.

Personally, I don’t believe it’s really healthy to fight or judge yourself, and I also don’t believe it’s healthy to just give in to every impulse either. There should be a healthy balance between the two. It’s about compassionate self guidance and self discovery, so that we can get where we want to go in life, as well as feel free and be able to enjoy the journey.

#12 Holding ourselves back and being in the ‘messy middle’ with Jaz Broughton
Listen to this episode from Real & Raw by Unsetting Expectations on Spotify. In this Real & Raw live, we welcomed to Jaz Broughton, a certified career coach who has helped many people establish their businesses, attract new opportunities and get away from this ‘never-enough’ cycle through her coachi…
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If you're interested in learning to respect your resistance and not resist it, and learn to free yourself from any internal battle, listen to the whole conversation, Jaz Broughton has got some good tips for you!

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